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Hi Kidder,

I've been listening to and enjoying the SiF podcast for a couple months. I wanted to let you know that it disappointed me to hear you call the woman from the naked truth church a "bitch" and a "cunt." As you are someone who is a sexuality educator and who speaks often about positive sexuality, I'm guessing you probably know the whole spiel about why those words are disrespectful in the context of women's sexuality. If you don't, let me know and I'd be happy to talk about it with you more. I'm just asking that you please be mindful of using bitch or cunt as a pejorative. (and, of course, if you're saying "I'm your bitch" or "I want to lick your cunt" those are completely ok--it's using those words as a put-down that I'm objecting to.)

Another Offended Listener



Dear Another Offended Listener,
Yeah, I'm not that kind of sex educator. I'm more the kind that thinks that being politically correct is pretty faggoty, and I mean that in the non-homosexual way. People who get too hung up on words are big pussies in my opinion, and they should grow up, get a pair, and realize words are just words and the intention is more important than the actual words used.  Sticks and stones and all that. I don't buy into the whole "it is sexist or disrespectful" to use words like cunt. I love the word, "cunt" and I'm certainly not going to ever stop using it. It is pretty well accepted in places like England where the population's concepts of verbiage isn't so fragile that they lose their shit every time someone dares to spin a verbose phrase. 

I'm not at all shocked that you were offended, but I am amazed that your email was the first to express a sandy vagina of discontent my way. I think that my audience is finally toughening up or perhaps realizing that offering another adult advice about speech etiquette is just fucking lame, and I don't mean that in a handicapped way. You know what I said and that I meant to say it and that if I hadn't wanted to say it, I'd have chosen to use different words. I chose those words carefully because that woman was a bitter cunt, and calling her a "unfriendly person" just doesn't do the scene justice. When we give up on choosing to use more colorful descriptions to appease the overly-sensitive fuck-tards, and I don't mean that in the mentally challenged way, then the terrorists win. Freedom to speak how each of us see fit and use words that have become part of our lexicon for very good reasons is the freedom that matters to me the most and I'd rather chuck the Wii-Mote across the room and just start sobbing before I give you or anyone the false belief that they can censor me. 

So it comes down to this, do you really think that I was being disrespectful to women's sexuality because I called the woman a, "cunt?" Do you really think that I was making any sort of comparison thus weakening the contributions of all womenkind, including you, my wife, my mother, or my daughter because I called her a, "bitchy cunt?" Do you really believe that women cannot tell the difference based on the very context of the way I used the word to know that I wasn't comparing their genitals in any way to this woman? Human beings are significantly more complex than you give them credit, especially women who excel way beyond thy Y chromosomes of their same age at language comprehension. 

If we cannot use the word, "cunt," then Ricky Gervais just isn't as funny. Don't be one of these scrotums that get all pissed off and can't handle a joke. You'll miss out on too much of the fun that life can offer you in heaping spunk-loads. http://www.economist.com/blogs/blighty/2011/01/goldenglobescontroversy

With sincerest regards, 
Kidder Kaper




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This is a very stupid thing to say Kidder. I certainly don't agree with your listener, but this blog is really, really stupid.

dear Another Offended Listener,
i bet you 10 bucks that you do not get offended if a woman calls a man a dick. so there is a double standard. so if you every call a man a dick that is sexist as well. so do not say it. oh and if you do not like what kidder says go some where else. it is just a word, used to describe a action or usage.

Yeah, well. I think YOU'RE STUPID!!! Really, really STUPID! :P

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