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Which Vibe?Kidder,

I just started listening to your podcast and also love Kidder and Jade's BTW podcast.

I was wondering what would be a good first time vibrator for my wife. I looked at the Hitachi Magic Wand and the Eroscillator online, but the nearest accessible outlet to the bed is about 6 feet away.

I'd appreciate any suggestions.

Thanks
Chris

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Chris,

A first time vibrator is kinda like your first pair of skis. Many would think it wise to get a cheap board to see if you even like skiing before dropping a wad of cash on a sport you may only try once. But what if your first experience, which is largely going to be spent sliding down the slope on your face or your ass anyway, was burdened by boots that hurt, bindings that release all the time, and a dull edge that couldn't cut though warm brie? You probably wouldn't want to try it again. Luckily you can rent a decent pair of skis before you buy them. Unfortunately there doesn't seem to be much business potential in renting sex toys, so there isn't much of a "try before you buy" opportunities with anything designed to touch your junk.

Realistically it is just as likely that a six dollar bullet vibe will let you know whether or not she likes vibes on her clit, but those little fraker's are hard plastic that are cheaply made with molded edges that need to be sanded down before use. If you have the funds wouldn't you rather have a top-of the line model for her first ride? If it would increase the chances she liked the experience by even 1% more, wouldn't you rather pay the extra cash to be more likely to have a great first experience? I see from your email that you sent this to me from your fancy iPhone, so chances are you have plenty of disposable income, well that is until you get your AT&T bill.

I can tell that you are already smarter than the average bear in that you've started shopping for a plug-in model. Battery powered units are for chumps and people who eat paste. The plug in models are more powerful, last longer, and NEVER LET YOU DOWN. You were even smart enough to consider your nearest outlet. A good vibrator becomes standard gear in the bedroom. We keep ours right next to the bed at all times and we use it often. I'd go as far as say that 40% of all our foreplay and about 10% of our after-play involves using the vibrator. So not needing to get out an extension cord helps us use it without a break in the action. Frankly you want a cord long enough so it can just stay plugged in all the time.

If you go with the Hitachi Magic Wand, you are getting a solid performer that is durable, powerful, variable, aesthetically pleasing, and can be owned without embarrassment. because really, it is just a back massager. ;) It has a 6' long cord so you may need to use an extension cord. If you get the Hitachi, you'll probably like it and you can get it from my sponsors here, and here.

That said, the Eroscillator does have some features that deserve a glance even though it costs more than twice what a Hitachi will set you back. For starters it has a 12' long cord which seems excessive until you find yourself in need of a cord that long, then it is bliss. All I'm going to say about that is that it was an memorable night that I shall use as fodder until I'm a senile old bastard. The technological differences between the Eroscillator an all other vibrators is that it doesn't actually vibrate, it oscillates. This means that instead of moving in all directions, the stimulator very quickly rocks back and fourth. Your clitoris probably won't notice a difference but your nerve endings will.

Vibrations cause temporary nerve de-sensitivity. The best description I have for this feeling is the tingly sensation you get in your hands after mowing the lawn or using a power tool for extended periods of time. This is nothing to get too worried about because most women get off on their vibes well before they become desensitized and the feeling usually returns within a few hours. The unfortunate drawback to this desensitization is that vibes are a great foreplay tool but it kinda sucks that they make your vulva numb just before the action takes place.

This is where the Eroscillator really earns its wallet lightening price tag, in our tests, we've found that nerve desensitization was greatly reduced on vulvas and frenulums, well at least my frenulum. Many of the women also noted that the smaller stimulation head allowed them to focus purely on their clitoris, whereas the large footprint of the Hitachi stimulated the whole vulva. One may think that more is better, but apparently not when it comes to women cumming. Because the footprint is much smaller it is also more convenient to use the Eroscillator during intercourse. It isn't easier than say a vibrating cock-ring, but easier than a big old back massager. The Eroscillator resembles the shape of an electronic tooth brush so I guess it is easy to own without embarrassment. Though I've got to give points to the Hitachi here because it is much easier to press it to your shoulders and pretend you are using it to loosen sore muscles should anyone catch you using it, verses sticking the Eroscillator into your mouth and pretending you are brushing your teeth with a new tooth paste that smells remarkably similar to vulva juice.

The Eroscillator costs about $130 and is SOMETIMES available here at our sponsor.

Accessories!

Both the Hitachi and The Eroscillator can be purchased with hundreds of dollars worth of attachments and accessories. Heck, you can even get a speed controller for the Hitachi that gives it unlimited speed increments for those who are simply not satisfied by, HIGH, MEDIUM, and LOW. For the Hitachi, I'd skip them all, or at least skip them for now. The dildo attachments just aren't that fantastic and most women (I said, "MOST," so just back the frak off) prefer to isolate their stimulation to their clits when getting off anyway.

On the Eroscillator side, we mostly just use the standard cup attachment. I like the Ultra Soft Finger Tip attachment on my frenulum and on girls with really sensitive clits. The French Legionnaire's Mustache feels kind of like someone whispering on your skin which is an interesting sensation but not worth the $50 price tag. They also sell a bunch of attachments that are designed to go inside the vagina and stimulate the G-Spot. Skip them all. The Eroscillator people have perfected the science of clitoral stimulation but seem to be completely ignorant of a woman's internal anatomy.

Choose wisely and have fun with your first vibe,

Kidder


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I'm going to strongly disagree on a Hitachi as a first vibrator. It's just too powerful even on low for some women. Near instant numbness that lingers for hours probably isn't a good first impression if the woman has that sort of reaction to strong vibration. That's the reaction I have to a Hitachi and if that had been my first vibrator experience I'd have never wanted to try it again.

There are a lot of nice small battery operated vibrators that aren't cheap $6 bullet vibes that make a good first vibrator. The lack of power and the fact that they're small and cute are good for the friendliness factor.

I'd say try Mystic Wand. Betty Dodson recommends it recently alongside Hitachi. Mystic has more speed options and patterns and it's cordless. I'd also suggest subscribing to a review round-up such as Pleasurists.

I know the Hitachi is supposed to be the gold standard, but I find it a) *really loud*, to the point where I'm annoyed and distracted, 2) heavy, and 3) so powerful that I feel either numb or in pain after a minute or two. Maybe after a lot of experience with vibes I'd think differently, but that hasn't happened yet. Personally, I love my Meany mini-vibe from Fun Factory. It's battery operated, but the batteries seem to last for quite a while. It's super quiet, lightweight, and has five or six different intensity levels. And when I'm more in the mood for penetration than vibration it works great as a dildo, with wonderful ridges for g-spot stimulation.

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The rabbit is a good first time vibrator. Its base rotates and it has a tip for clitoral stimulation as well. That was my first one. I also like the butterfly kiss it has clitoral and g-spot stimulation. I graduated to te Hitachi which is my new favorite but it is not a first time vibrator.

exactly, if I were you, I will choose the product with low price! Eroscillator really earns its wallet lightening price tag, in our tests, we've found that nerve desensitization was greatly reduced on vulvas and frenulums, well at least my frenulms!

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